Dear Donna,

I have been dating a man for two months, and he wants me to be exclusive and not date anyone else. I told him I am not dating anyone else and I am not interested in dating anyone else, but I am also not ready to make the commitment to be in an exclusive relationship. He said he cannot continue to date me if I cannot make this commitment because I must not be as interested in him as he is in me. He told me to take a few days to think about it and let him know. Until this happened, I thought things were going great and I was starting to think he could be someone special in my life. But I do not like being put in this position. I feel like I have hit a brick wall and I don’t know what to do. – Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

His expectation is unrealistic and one-sided. Most people are not ready to be exclusive in two months. He should accept that you are not ready rather than trying to force you into it. Tell him this makes you uncomfortable and that you are not ready to make this decision. If he decides to end the relationship, let him go. This is not a good sign for things to come and, either way, you probably should let him go.

Dear Donna,

My best friend is going to marry a lady I think is wrong for him. He knows how I feel about her, but he has asked me to be his best man. I told him I would, but the more I think about it, the more I don’t want to do it. I think the whole thing is a farce and he is making a terrible mistake. I want to tell him that I would feel like a hypocrite standing up for him as his best man, but I am concerned about how it would affect our friendship. I don’t know if I should keep my mouth shut or speak up before it’s too late. – Chris

Dear Chris,

You said he knows how you feel about her and he has decided to marry her anyway. I think you should keep your mouth shut and be his best man.

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Donna Shugrue owns Perfectly Matched. Her column runs biweekly in Family. Visit perfectlymatcheddating.com or email questions to donnashugrue@comcast.net.